At the end of the year do you make New Year’s Resolutions? Many people do. For some it’s a time to feel hopeful for a chance to start over. For others a time for self-recrimination when the year’s resolutions sound a lot like last year’s. Weigh less, exercise more. Make more, save more. Spend more time with family. Learn _________. (You fill in the blank) You may tell yourself that … Read More
Monthly Archives: December 2012
The Best Christmas Present You Could Ever Give Yourself . . . And It’s FREE!
Christmas is less than a week away! Regardless of what you celebrate, everyone is abuzz: parties, presents, food, family, friends. And expectations. This time of year everyone has expectations of others and of ourselves. My friend June is just now laboring under expectations (mostly self-imposed) that she has to deliver the perfect Christmas for everyone in her family – meeting all of their expectations. I know that one well, and … Read More
Getting triggered – Cutting Off Your Nose to Spite Your Face
There is nothing so precious as our sense of worth – Elizabeth Crook In my consulting business, the end of the year is a time to renew agreements with client companies. We look at their needs for the year, where I can add most value, we consider their budget and come up with something that seems fair to both of us. Sometimes what companies can benefit from and what they … Read More
The Gift We’re Afraid to Ask For
A couple of weeks ago John, one of my all time favorite clients, called me up almost in tears. John is a teddy bear of a guy, the size of a linebacker with a genius IQ. As a successful software engineer, he’s done well in his career so far, and yet his company just passed him over for the second promotion in a matter of months. “They didn’t even interview … Read More
The List That Can Change Your Life
Is this you? I haven’t been happy at this for the past five or six years. I didn’t really choose this career. I don’t even know what I want to do. Every time I think about leaving it, I feel guilty. Shouldn’t I be grateful for what I have? If you feel this way, you are not alone! Take Susan, a professor with tenured status, who came to me after … Read More